{"id":1896,"date":"2021-02-14T20:48:17","date_gmt":"2021-02-14T20:48:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cogentmotivation.com\/?p=1896"},"modified":"2021-02-14T20:48:20","modified_gmt":"2021-02-14T20:48:20","slug":"what-matters-more-the-place-or-the-person","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cogentmotivation.com\/index.php\/2021\/02\/14\/what-matters-more-the-place-or-the-person\/","title":{"rendered":"What matters more: The place or the person?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

At some point in our lives, we have come across this question, directly or implicitly; what is more important, the place or the person? Now you would\u2019ve probably grabbed an option in your mind and if you haven\u2019t, voila! You have one of the most unbiased, rare minds out there! So, hang on to the answer you have in mind. It wasn\u2019t pretty easy to choose right? Or was it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s try to look at things as analytically as we can. Beginning with an ideal case: You are planning to visit a place that you\u2019ve always wanted to, say the Eiffel Tower. The weather is sunny but not too hot and you have your best friend as your company. There is no discussion here. All seems like a dream (and probably is!). The place and the people, both have won.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Now let\u2019s get back to reality. Mostly, coming to a consensus for visiting a place with the people you want to is an arduous task, to say the least. Sometimes their schedules don\u2019t match yours, sometimes they are far too away from you or they simply aren\u2019t as enthusiastic as you to visit that place. Well, the same goes for you, maybe you aren\u2019t as interested in visiting the place as your people. It is right here; the question begins to raise its head\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Would I go to \u2018the place\u2019 with \u2018others\u2019? Or should I go to \u2018a place\u2019 with \u2018my people\u2019?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hmm\u2026 the answer. Compromises aren\u2019t simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s try looking up some scenarios. For this discussion let\u2019s also remove the option of \u2018going solo\u2019 as it is not aligned with the questions we have. It\u2019s a landmark place we are talking about, the one you\u2019ve always wanted to visit since your childhood. Maybe it is one of the seven wonders of the world or just someplace that has made a special place in your heart and now visiting it is one of your life goals. In this case, of course, you\u2019d prefer a close one with you, but even if it means swapping them with \u2018others\u2019 for this one trip; I am sure you\u2019d not resist a lot. The place has dominated over the person in this case.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Now maybe it\u2019s a place you wish to visit; not an absolute epic but still a good one. It seems like who accompanies you matters significantly more now. Now let\u2019s add more parameters to the equation. The weather is poor, probably heavy rains or cold but you still set out. Does the company matter now? Damn yes it does, right? By this point, you\u2019ve probably realized that the prime motive you are setting out is no longer the place but the person!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the end, the answer lies within our brains. The meaning that we have attached to a place or a person. If your meaning attached to a place is greater than the people you are with, then naturally the place appeals to you more. On the other hand, if the meaning attached to a person becomes greater than the place, the most ordinary parks in the harshest weathers won\u2019t hamper your motivations to meet the person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Image by Arek Socha<\/a> from Pixabay<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

What this also implies is that the answer has to do with the approach we set out with. When we set out to \u2018visit a place\u2019; the emphasis is more on finding all the cues \u2018to get to the place\u2019 and make required compromises with the people we are with. Similarly, when we set out to \u2018meet the person\u2019; we make all the efforts to negate the significance of a place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But one has to acknowledge that for our brains, classifying it into two is not an easy task.  It is right here where the question takes its birth. And this very classification is subjective. Where you might draw a line for the meaning, another person would not even begin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is my experience with it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I look back in the past, I\u2019ve visited a few places and met some people. There have been times when I went out to visit a place compromising on my companions. Instead of enjoying the trip and the place, I spent more time making myself comfortable with my \u2018fellow travellers\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And there also have been times when I decidedly met the people, I wanted to meet even at a roadside kiosk. And the memories I have relished the most are the times I spent with the people. But my preference was not quite obvious to me! It was only when I met people in the wildest weathers, wading through mud and wearing not the most suiting clothes; I realized that the places I visited or the conditions or the place itself were less relevant than the people I was with. This pretty much reminds me of the famous psychiatrist Carl Jung\u2019s<\/a> quote: \u2018There is no coming to consciousness without pain\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Image by Sasin Tipchai<\/a> from Pixabay<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

What do you think about it? What weighs more for you; the place or the person? Perhaps you can share your opinions in the comments!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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