How many times it has happened that, we make a resolve to do something & start with it for a day or two or for a week; and then almost like you never began, you find yourself no longer pursuing what you had intended to do so. The desired effect you had hoped for never appears & the idea of ‘making resolutions is useless’ gets stronger within your mind. We feel that either we lack the audacity to follow our resolves or obtaining the desired change in life is just another myth. Perhaps everything is dependent on fate as ‘the scholars’ say!
The thoughts that some of us are gifted with certain skills or the idea that some of us were just meant to be the way they are (successful!) make their way in our minds. More and more similar instances pile up in your memories, only bolstering these thoughts.
But have you ever taken an unprejudiced glance at the possible reasons behind these unwanted outcomes? If asked for reasons, why one stopped doing what they initially intended to do; the most common answers would be: “I was too lazy.” Or “There seemed no positive signs of change” or “The results started popping out within 2 weeks for the other guys but nothing changed for me even in three weeks!”, “It was just not meant for me!”, etc…
HOLD ON!
Before we get into analysing these responses, let’s begin answering some simple questions. Say you plant few dozen mango seeds & few tomato seeds in your garden. You watered them and took good care of them by timely spraying fertilizers & protecting them from insects. Within 3 months, the tomato plants are full-grown and start producing tomatoes. But wait, would the mango saplings start growing mangoes? None of them, right?
More importantly, did you question yourself that why didn’t the mangoes grow enough so as to produce the fruits like tomatoes? Now then, would it be a wise decision to stop watering the mango saplings because they couldn’t deliver fruits in three months?
The answers to these questions seem to be ridiculously simple, don’t they?
But what happens to us when it comes to the resolutions we make? We have to understand, that perhaps they are just like these little seeds! Our goals and resolves are all different like the mangoes & tomatoes. Each of them takes their own time to materialize. By comparing why the goals of others have realized already & why not yours, hence abandoning the efforts; do you expect your sapling to deliver fruits?
It is of prime significance to understand that we all have different timelines.
Oh, now you are saying complaining that some of your same type of plants delivered outstanding fruits & some just didn’t grow any fruits and died? Well, that’s the whole point here!
To understand this, let’s get back to the farms and seeds. A good farmer, when he plants the seeds of the crop he wishes to harvest, knows that all the seeds he is sowing, won’t turn out to be the same, healthy & brilliant crops. Some turn out to be better than he expected, while some just die out. Some show stunted growth while some get pecked away by a bird. But does the farmer stop watering and taking care of the plants?
NO!
He loves them all equally! He regularly shows up, waters them all because he believes. More so he has absolute faith in his own actions that will deliver the results. Instead of worrying about the unknown circumstances, the farmer takes time and efforts to understand his own soil & what he could do to improve its quality.
A good farmer doesn’t complain of having a barren patch of land for himself & others have good fertile land. He works on it & focusses on the PROCESS, rather than just expecting RESULTS!
In this life, there will always be situations & parameters that you won’t have control over. But one has to understand, that you’ve to have immense faith in yourself & focus solely on the process! Be it an academic achievement, the desired relationship or a daring endeavour, don’t run after or make haste for the fruits, for they will take care of themselves if you take care of the process.
Get up & show up every-day, even if you feel unsure about it; believe in yourself for the sake of it! You are a good farmer, aren’t you?
